The Secret Lives of Moms

Before I begin my post on motherhood, I am proud to announce that I made it to the gym and did cardio for 35 minutes!!!While doing cardio I was even able to watch Oprah. I know it may come as a big surprise, but no, even as a SAHM I do not watch Oprah daily! However going to the gym worked out around the time Oprah was on and the topic of today's show - Motherhood! Something I know ALL about now. From the show "The one universal truth about motherhood seems to be that no one ever tells you what to really expect." How true is that? I have found myself so many times saying, no one ever told me it was going to be like this! A women on the show commented that, "she could no longer control everything in her life. "You can no longer choose your activities, your down time, when you get to sleep," she says. "No matter what you do or where you go, you're always tethered to this other human being in this unbreakable, incredibly fragile way. Anything you do will affect this child potentially for the rest of their life."
One of my favorite quotes that I really need to focus on was from an author Oprah had on the show she said, "mothers need to accept that they cannot reclaim the person they were before they had kids." "You have to reinvent yourself," she says. How true is that. I think this was particularly true for me right after I brought Logan home from the hospital. I definitely had post partum BAD, I just remember thinking how am I going to get my life back. I thought that the baby would just slip into all the things I liked to do. I had to learn to accept and let go of the life I had before and reinvent myself just like this author said.
Another mother, started a blog after she had her baby and then post partum - www.Dooce.com and guess what? She has so many advertisers on her blog that she brings in $40,000 a month! She supports her family (her hubby no longer works) by writing on her blog!
Then as the show was coming to a close - working moms vs. stay at home moms (the following is taken from Oprah.com, I wanted to share it)

In a studio full of moms, one audience member says her biggest complaint regarding motherhood is the unspoken competition between working moms and stay-at-home moms. "It is a war. It's a kind war, but still a war," she says. "I'm a working mom, so it's important that my family comes first and that I still do everything that a stay-at-home mom does, plus have a career. That means every single one of my vacation days are used for [my kids]—mommy day at school, a playdate or mommy and me things. … We don't want it to seem as if we love our career more, so we try to do it all and get two hours of sleep."
Dee-Dee is currently a stay-at-home mom, but she was a working mother once too. "The competition is there because we create it for ourselves," she says. "There's really no reason to compete, because [stay-at-home moms] are just as busy as the working mom. The working mom is just as busy as we are. We just tend to sometimes put the focus on the wrong things. We're all busy 24/7. I consider myself an at-home working mother."

Amy (the author of "I would trade my husband for a housekeeper" - a book I plan on reading)says these wars arise out of our own uncertainties as mothers. "We're insecure about the choices we're making—that's why we're judging each other," she says. "We need to give ourselves a collective break."
"Have compassion for each other," Trisha says. "Realize we all have issues, and we're all doing the best we can."
How true is that?